Jul 24, 2014
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aber-flyingtiger:

rupeerose:

teafortrouble:

megg33k:

I need feminism because most men’s restrooms still aren’t equipped with baby changing stations. As someone who was married to a man who had sole custody of his young son, I’m hyperaware that feminism means EQUALITY, not female superiority. Feminism should and does support a man’s right to be as much of a parent to his child(ren) as any mother is allowed/expected to be.

This is a constant problem for Mr. Tea and myself. We’ve got twins, so even though I can change one kid on the change table in the ladies’ room, he’s left standing sort of awkwardly in the lobby with a messy child while I change one, come back, and get the other.

Nobody’s suggesting that men aren’t parents, so the lack of change tables goes well beyond ‘gender role reinforcing’ and straight into ‘ridiculous’.

My dad actually almost got kicked out of a mall once for changing my brother in the womens room of a mall. The only reason they didn’t call the cops on him was because the ladies in the room supported him.

I’d never even considered this but I support it

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Jul 24, 2014
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rionhunter:

rionhunter:

misterandry:

i don’t ever want to hear a man’s thoughts on feminism

ever

'It's important'?
'It's worth fighting tooth and nail for'?
'I will do everything within my power to end the patriarchy'?

I’m all for tuning out the misogynists, but how am I…

ergh.
Yes.
I know.
Trust me, I understand.
With pure clarity.

But can I have the chance to help?
Like, what can I say or do, at this point, to prove that I’m on your side in this?
Is there any way I can fight for your rights, without being shot down by the people I’m trying to fight for?
I don’t want to be ‘more important’.
I don’t want to exert myself over the girls in this battle.
I don’t want it to be this way.

I.
just.
want.
to.
help.

But the people I’m trying to help are constantly trying to shoot me down, and I can’t even say ‘hey, let me help empower you in this war’ without this attempt at trying to inject the exact agenda I’m trying to overcome into what I’m trying to accomplish.

I’m a male feminist.
I’m sorry if those aren’t allowed to exist by your standards.
But I’m going to keep fighting for you, regardless.

I believe women don’t have equal rights, and that femininity is looked down upon in our society, and I want that to change, and I will fight for it.
I don’t need the label to know what’s wrong, and what’s worth fighting for.
But if the fact that I have a penis and identify as a male means I’m not allowed to help, then I don’t know what I can do for you.

I didn’t want to sit on the sidelines and watch, but sometimes I feel like that’s the only option you’re letting me have.

I just thought I’d have a good advantage in this battle, being behind enemy lines. That’s what I meant by being louder.
And like I said, I don’t consider that to be a fortunate thing.
It’s not something that I want or like
It’s just the way it is, and I believe that needs to change.

So please, I beg of you.
Let me help.
And I’m sorry I used the term ‘ignorance’ initially.
It’s just frustrating when people who fight for feminism don’t practice what they preach.
How are we going to accomplish equality when you display the exact behavior you’re trying to overcome?

Jul 23, 2014
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rionhunter:

misterandry:

i don’t ever want to hear a man’s thoughts on feminism

ever

'It's important'?
'It's worth fighting tooth and nail for'?
'I will do everything within my power to end the patriarchy'?

I’m all for tuning out the misogynists, but how am I supposed to help in this battle if you’re going to fight against those on your side?

My absolute concern is this coming across as ‘not all men’.
What I’m trying to say with this is that your indignant ignorance isn’t going to solve anything, and will just make it more difficult for those trying to help you and your cause.

If you want progress, accept those willing to help.

I don’t believe male feminists should be heralded as heroes. I believe they should be the norm.
They should be expected.
And, considering they are the ones this current, corrupt system supports, they will (unfortunately) have the loudest voices.

Allow us to help you have your change. Don’t try and fight this fire with fire.

Because how will you be better than those you are trying to overcome?

Jul 23, 2014
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misterandry:

i don’t ever want to hear a man’s thoughts on feminism

ever

'It's important'?
'It's worth fighting tooth and nail for'?
'I will do everything within my power to end the patriarchy'?

I’m all for tuning out the misogynists, but how am I supposed to help in this battle if you’re going to fight against those on your side?

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Jul 23, 2014
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People will come and go, but the only person you’re definitely going to spend your whole life with is yourself.

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Jul 23, 2014
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Anonymous asked: Would you say you handle rejection well? From girls I mean.

¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Trying to get into a relationship hasn’t really been a focus of mine for a long time, but the few times I’ve asked a girl out, it hasn’t been successful. This is made obvious by the fact that I’ve never been in a relationship.

My levels of handling the rejection have obviously varied from situation to situation. It’s always hurt more when there’s been more hope involved, and when it’s has had time and reason to blossom.

Judging by the reactions of other dudes getting rejected, I’d say I handle it pretty well though. Some of the responses I see posted online can be so petty.
It’s never been an ego thing for me. Whenever I’ve been turned down, and it’s hurt, I’ve always tried my best to just remove myself from that situation.

I don’t like the idea of having that onus hanging over the girl that’s involved. If they’ve rejected me, and I was emotionally invested in a potential ‘us’, I don’t want to make them feel bad for that.

And, as I can be quite emotional sometimes, the best way I can usually go about fulfilling that is by putting space between us.

Most of the times I’ve been turned down, it’s been because they’ve just started seeing someone else, and they’ve wanted to see where that goes.

This has actually happened with… pretty much every girl I’ve asked out in the past 5+ years.

That, or it’s just been an easier way for them to say ‘no’.

Every time.

Either way, they aren’t available or interested, so I tend to just bail out real fast.

But I don’t ask girls out very often. Like I said, getting into a relationship isn’t really something I think would work for me, at this time.

If you want some advice on rejection though, I can share with you something that I’ve embraced.

'Use it'.

Use the rejection to burn the fire of progress, and keep pushing forwards. Become a better person, and hope that the next person that comes along can see that in you.
And if not, whatever.

Keep evolving, and when someone comes along that you want to be with, that wants to be with you, you’ll be the best person you can be.
For them, and for yourself.

But don’t do it in spite. Don’t be in it just to prove wrong the person who rejected you. There’s no right to be mad at them. These things just don’t work out some times.

It’s easy to see it as ‘not being good enough’.
But is that a bad thing?
Is setting the bar higher for yourself really detrimental?

I am someone who’s constantly trying to be the best person I can be. But I’m not doing it for the girls who I might get with, or the ones with whom I didn’t.

I’m doing it for the sake of my purpose.
The most of whatever you can be is your best.
And doing the most in your life seems like the most ideal way to spend it.

People will come and go, but the only person you’re definitely going to spend your whole life with is yourself.

I’m constantly pushing myself forward, and when I’ve been rejected, I’ve allowed myself to use that as added momentum. I’ll go to the gym more, I’ll make better art, I’ll do everything I can to prove that they made a mistake, but I won’t ever let them know.

Make use of the fire while it burns.
But don’t define yourself by it.

I want to stress that, because this can kinda come across like that.

Don’t be a better person just to prove them wrong.
Prove them wrong to be a better person.

And don’t prove it to them.
Prove it to yourself.

Seriously. Don’t ever let them know. It’s not about ego.
It’s not about being better off without them.

It’s about you, as an individual, growing, and making use of the power it gives you positively.
Be the best person for yourself, and just hope that, eventually, someone might notice.
But don’t exist for that one day.

I’m immensely lonely at the moment. And if that never changes, I’ll still be able to look back on my life and say ‘Well, I was my best, and that’s the most I could be.’
And I’ll be content.

Yes, being alone all the time can be a drain.
Yes, I go through some weeks where it’s an absolute drag.

But I’m also constantly evolving. I’m constantly growing and becoming a better person, for the sake of the world.

For work, I’ve been caring for children with disabilities in their homes for six and a half years.
I volunteer at the local children’s hospital, where I take books up to the sick kids in the wards, loaning out and reading to them.
I’m currently trying to launch a charity that will enable people to volunteer in new, innovative ways, where funds raised will have visible results.

And I’m not doing this so that I can pick up chicks. In fact, I never even mention this stuff. A lot of my friends don’t know what I do for work, and hardly anyone knows I volunteer at the hospital (until now).

When I get rejected, I just allow it to push me forward faster.

That’s the best life advice I can give.

And don’t let the fact that I’m lonely detract from the ‘don’t improve yourself just for a relationship’ advice.

Be good for the sake of good.

Jul 23, 2014
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jamescannotfly:

nostopdasgay:

everets:

Every morning the light comes in and my toilet looks beautiful

holy shit

Please tell me that was an intentional pun

jamescannotfly:

nostopdasgay:

everets:

Every morning the light comes in and my toilet looks beautiful

holy shit

Please tell me that was an intentional pun

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Jul 23, 2014
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thewayistare:

thepepperinyourpot:

friendlycloud:

myunclehasabassguitar:

the problem, as i see it:

contrary to popular belief, feminism is not a movement against men, it is a movement for women.

and contrary to popular belief, men’s rights activism is not a movement for men, it is a movement against women.

This.

Perfect summary.

Yo

nice

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Jul 23, 2014
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kokodokoko:

just because I don’t follow you back doesn’t mean I think you have a shitty blog. You might just have posts/fandoms/stuff I don’t really want on my dash. And hey, that’s fine. It’s YOUR tumblr you’re here for you and that’s great.

But please don’t think me not following you back means I hate you 5ever and that you can never inbox me or reply to my posts or follow me on twitter or something b/c that is not what it means at all.

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Jul 23, 2014
231,483 notes
johnlockanddestielatemysoul:

christianmakesjokes:

hello yes, I would like to purchase one night stand.

cAN WE ALL JUST PAUSE AND APPRECIATE THIS PUN

johnlockanddestielatemysoul:

christianmakesjokes:

hello yes, I would like to purchase one night stand.

cAN WE ALL JUST PAUSE AND APPRECIATE THIS PUN

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Jul 23, 2014
13,432 notes

Favorite Pottermore Artwork so far

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Jul 23, 2014
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the-elderscrolls:

Polish doctor that refused to perform abortion named a “hero”
Dr Bogdan Chazan was visited by an expecting mother (32 weeks into pregnancy), who already had 5 miscarriages before and was worried about her health. It turned out that the fetus had hydrocephalus, undeveloped brain and was missing many bones from its skull. The Doctor refused to perform an abortion and didn’t send the woman to another hospital which could do so (according to polish law, if a doctor doesn’t want to perform an abortion, he has to choose another hospital which will agree to do so). Chazan was named a “local hero” and “true warrior of Jesus in the name of life of the unborn” by many polish politicians and catholic activists. He used conscience clause as an excuse for his actions.
The woman gave birth to the child through a C-section. She and her husband spent 10 painful days watching their deformed child die a horrible death. When she finally decided to speak out, she said:
“During these 10 days, no priest, no pro life activist or even dr Chazan came to see the child, to ask if they can help. It was really hard to look at our child. We knew what was coming, but it was still very hard to cope with”
Congratulations, pro-lifers - another “life” saved, another “happy” child and “happy” family. 

the-elderscrolls:

Polish doctor that refused to perform abortion named a “hero”

Dr Bogdan Chazan was visited by an expecting mother (32 weeks into pregnancy), who already had 5 miscarriages before and was worried about her health. It turned out that the fetus had hydrocephalus, undeveloped brain and was missing many bones from its skull. The Doctor refused to perform an abortion and didn’t send the woman to another hospital which could do so (according to polish law, if a doctor doesn’t want to perform an abortion, he has to choose another hospital which will agree to do so). Chazan was named a “local hero” and “true warrior of Jesus in the name of life of the unborn” by many polish politicians and catholic activists. He used conscience clause as an excuse for his actions.

The woman gave birth to the child through a C-section. She and her husband spent 10 painful days watching their deformed child die a horrible death. When she finally decided to speak out, she said:

During these 10 days, no priest, no pro life activist or even dr Chazan came to see the child, to ask if they can help. It was really hard to look at our child. We knew what was coming, but it was still very hard to cope with

Congratulations, pro-lifers - another “life” saved, another “happy” child and “happy” family. 

Jul 23, 2014
25 notes

Have you ever considered the fact that perhaps Scabbers didn’t turn yellow because he wasn’t actually a rat?

Jul 22, 2014
9,343 notes

theroguefeminist:

feminism never made me hate men

men’s behavior made me hate men

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Jul 22, 2014
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sentimentalurl asked: I'd like you to know that the thing you posted about not being able to be sexist to men or racist to whites is completely wrong. Racism and sexism are prejudice or discrimination towards a race/sex, no one is excluded.

rionhunter:

I’m a cis, straight, white male and I’m all for prejudice against us because most of us are complete assholes.
So I could be biased in this response.
However I’ll try and explain how I see it.

Let’s define the power of the demographic as bodies of water, just as an example I’ve just pulled out of thin air. Those with less power in our society have smaller pools, and those with more have larger.

If you take a shit in a puddle, it has a pretty big impact. You wouldn’t want to drink from it.
Whereas if you take a shit in the ocean, no one will ever notice.

Cis, white, straight and/or males getting up in arms about insults thrown against them just seems really petty.

I’m not for prejudice, in any way. I don’t think fighting this battle with what you’re trying to overcome will solve anything, and is, in fact, really backwards and.. undoes progress.

However, we ARE assholes that ARE suppressing a LOT of people, and making life HELL for any/every minority.
We take constant dumps in all these puddles, and then get upset when any of it gets flung our way.

It’s just so pathetic. I don’t see it as ‘racism’ or ‘sexism’, I see it as defiance.
Retaliation for what we’re doing to them.
And I’m never personally insulted by anything thrown this way, because I know I’m not a part of the problem. I’m actively trying to fix it.

If someone who is straight, white, cis, and/or male gets insulted by something someone from a minority has said, it’s because they must know, in some way, that they’re partly responsible.
They are perpetuating the problems.

It’s the whole ‘not all men’ thing again. If they’re insulted, it’s because they’re comfortable where they are.
They don’t want to become uncomfortable for the sake of others, so they aren’t willing to be a part of the change the world needs.

It’s much easier for them to say ‘I don’t like that’ instead of ‘you’re right’.

Most of the time, I feel, only the selfish get insulted.

So yes, while you’re correct, and I agree with you, I’d like to just point out that it shouldn’t matter, and it’s just par for the course until equality actually exists. Though, yes, the problems could be solved faster if all parties were more reasonable.
But the problems wouldn’t exist if that was the case.

I hope I get to see the day that equality exists, but I know it won’t happen until my demographics pull their head out of their ass. And it’s becoming apparent that that’s only going to happen from the inside the demographics, as they don’t listen to anyone else.

So here I am, trying.

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